King & Queen - Week 2

King and Queens - Week 2 

DEFINITION: Communication has not happened until the person speaking is both heard and understood by the person listening.

MISCOMMUNICATION- when someone talking is not heard or not understood by the person or people listening. 

1) Passive communication- Struggle to clearly communicate their wants and desires. They often feel frustrated and misunderstood, and don’t know if they will ever be able to express what they are really thinking/feeling.

2) Aggressive communication- Know exactly what they want but do not know how to communicate their desire in a non-demanding and sometimes bullying way. They often get their way, but can be perceived as abrasive and not the best listener.

3) Assertive communication- Know how to communicate their feelings and desires in a way that is direct, but not off putting. 

Matthew 5:37, “Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one.”

Communication killers 

1) The Overgeneralizer: “You always/You never”

Matthew 7:1-2, 1 “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. 2 For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.”

2) The Mind Reader: “I should not have to tell you, you should just know.” 

Phillipians 4:6-7, “6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

3) The Avoider: “Everything is fine”

Proverbs 27:5 - “Better is open rebuke than hidden love.”

“I don't want to talk about the nail..” video The nail illustration 

4) The Assassin: “Weaponized words do not bring peace”

Proverbs 15:1 - “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

5) The interrupter: "I-I-I think we should, um, talk about what happened l-last night."

Proverbs 18:13, “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.”

Proverbs 10:19, “Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues.”

6) The Careless Blabber: “Sticks and stones..”

Proverbs 12:18, “Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.”

James 3:6, “And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.“